July 28, 2006

Casual Sex is Caustic Sex

Based on the science of Evolution according to the ancient sages, a human being is the highest grade of existence. No human being should degrade himself or herself or any other person. To do so is inhumane.

We degrade ourselves when we treat ourselves or others as objects. Unless we see the other as pure consciousness (soul, ATMAN), we are seeing them as an object. First, we see ourselves as an object, and then we superimpose our misperception on others. This happens when we are subjectively involved with our mind and ego.

When we are caught up in our ego we subjectively involve ourselves with our mind and in the process we lose our objectivity. ‘Losing our objectivity’ means that we are unable to perceive our mind, ego, personality, memories, emotions, and body as objects of perception (of the spirit self), and instead, we actually think we are these things. This is the state of self-delusion.

In the state of self-delusion we create tremendous turmoil and confusion in our lives. In the state of self-delusion we fail to take seriously, or even consider, the consequences of our actions. For example, casual sex is a common behavior in this culture today. Those who engage in casual sex fail to see just how unhealthy and detrimental it really is. It destroys (or at least, seriously jeopardizes) one’s physical body, makes one ‘mental’ by hampering one’s ability to deter infatuation and false emotions, and severely cripples one’s character (spirit of being whole, integrated, and self-contained). In short, CASUAL SEX IS CAUSTIC SEX.

According to dictionary.com, the definition of ‘caustic’ is the following:

  1. Capable of burning, corroding, dissolving, or eating away by chemical action.
  2. Corrosive and bitingly trenchant; cutting. See Synonyms at sarcastic.
  3. Causing a burning or stinging sensation, as from intense emotion: ““Most of all, there is caustic shame for my own stupidity.” (Scott Turow).

Have no doubt: casual sex will definitely cause you much grief. For a few moments of pleasure, a human being can lose his or her life. It is not worth it.

Keep your character and hold your head high. Ignoring good advice and sticking your nose up in the air will not save you from the consequences of your actions.

Casual sex is inherently wrong. Sexual intimacy is a sacred and secret (private) aspect of married life. Sexual intimacy is reserved for married couples. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and woman to share their mind, body, and soul with each other as an affirmation of the bond of unfathomable love that exists between them. Sexual intimacy is an expression of that love, and that expression is beautiful, pure, and unifying (conducive to harmony). On the other hand, casual sex between so-called ‘consenting partners’ outside the bounds of marriage is in fact gross, impure, and selfish, and can only lead to discord and disgust.

Some persons may believe these words (‘gross, impure, selfish, leading to discord and disgust’) are unfair, and might try to say that ‘sex is just natural’. Yes, sex is natural within the bounds of marriage, but outside those bounds it is unnatural. Some people will say that it is not unnatural for most animals, and will say “what’s the big deal?”. Our reply is that we are not animals, we are human beings. We should be deep human beings, with a deep respect for the life and consciousness of other beings, and should never violate that sacred respect under any circumstances, and certainly not for a whim of the mind.

Those who betray their own true nature (their Real Nature), and violate the law of their own Being, are creating discord and violence, and ultimately become the victim of their own ignorance and arrogance.

It is not necessary that anyone in this world should suffer, but each of us must come to the realization that we are the sum total of our choices. Our choice of lunch or dinner can be a casual one, even whimsical, and at worse (perhaps much worse) we might have to work a little harder at the gym to burn off the extra calories. But our choice of whom we will share intimate moments of sexual pleasure with is NOT a casual choice. In fact, it should not even be under consideration except in the context of marriage.

Our choice is not a casual choice. It is a very, very careful choice. It should be the most selective choice of our life. It is definitely NOT a matter of whim or fancy. When we follow our whims, we are going to get a WHAM! (POW!). Sooner or later, Nature, in the guise of Fate is going to give us a slap that is so powerful we may be knocked off our feet and unable to stand up straight again. The rest of our life we may end up groveling in the mud of past regrets—and if we have been really, really selfish, we might even lose this beautiful human incarnation.

So, dear soul friend, BEWARE and remember: always read the labels and know what is inside. Don’t be distracted by the pretty shape or design of the package. Know the contents. OM

We Have to Live in Freshness

The only way to be stable and happy is to live in the freshness of Consciousness. We can’t hold on to old habits and negative memories and still expect to be secure and happy. We are free souls, we are not lumps of flesh, fat, bones, and grey matter. Then why do we spend so much time thinking about our non-self? Thinking about the non-self is nothing but nonsense. It doesn’t make any sense at all to burn our blood in anger, frustration, envy, and hatred.

The moment we start thinking about our self (non-self, ego) we put ourselves in jeopardy—we risk losing the opportunity to experience our Essence, our eternity.

This life is all about Liberation (Moksha)—we are here to become completely free, to become absolutely happy. Nobody can be happy being a slave of their mind, body, and ego. If we are enslaved by poor physical habits, unhealthy thought patterns, and egotistic expressions, then we need to get our act together.

In this life, our time is limited. If we wile away our time in mental brooding and senseless activities (gossiping, thrill-seeking, and the accumulation of useless mental and material junk) we are bound to be unhappy, dissatisfied, and discontent.

Malpractice (wrong practices) leads to malcontentment. We malign our mind when we escape into excuse making. We need to realign our thinking with our real self — the pure state of consciousness. Every day is a new day, every hour is a new hour, and every minute is a new minute. We have to be adjustable without losing principles. If we live in the freshness of Consciousness we can make adjustments in our thinking every second. In fact, when we live in Consciousness, we are in control of our thoughts and actions and do not succumb to negativity, boredom, or excitement. We remain stable and self-contained and open to growing and learning. This is the way of the wise. OM